BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS
If you are hurting, cry out the pain with Jesus and let Him totally heal your wounds.
The obliteration of a relationship covenant is grueling. It seems impossible to face a new day. Getting out of bed was a monumental task for me, too. You wonder, what kind of person did I give my heart to? What realm of evil and deception did I activate? I asked God the same questions endlessly. How is it possible for a person to say I love you one day and break your heart the next? How can we throw away our marriage? How can he justify his blatant sin in my face? How can a man walk away from his family? Would you change his heart and take away his ruthlessness?
If you have these feelings, know that God is willing and waiting to heal you. He loves to heal us. He loves to get you back on the right track and into joy. I have some wonderful prayers and revelations for you in the book “Is Your Relationship Worth the Cost?” I ask the Lord to heal you now and to help you move into a better dimension! Remember, what you lose in the fire, you will find in the ashes.
It will take work to see the treasure in this, so get your Bible out and do that scriptural reading each day. The Word will refurbish and replenish you. There is energy, and life and goodness in the Word.
Email me and let me know how you’re doing on your relationship journey.
Jesus enjoyed being single or unmarried.
During his mission on earth, Jesus was a single man. Despite popular books and movies that suggest he was married are wrong. The Bible makes no mention of such a claim. The inspired Word of God, the Bible, is the ultimate authority on Jesus.
It’s good news for you and me that Jesus was single. From his human experience, He knew about the loneliness, our fear, rejection, and the judgment we have to endure in the single life. Firsthand, He experienced what you are going through.
The human condition has remained largely unchanged over the past 2,000 years. Many still want to experience the joy of marriage. Human motives remain the same too. We still encounter difficult people driven by greed, jealousy, and pettiness. Jesus had to deal with them, and He gives us help in our struggles to go forth and to be happy. Oh yes, we can enjoy our seasons of un-marriedness!
A time to devote yourself to knowing your Father
1 Corinthians 7:32-35. I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the LORD’s affairs-how he can please the LORD. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world and how he can please his wife. His interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the LORD’s affairs. She aims to be devoted to the LORD in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world and how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in the right way in undivided devotion to the LORD.
STRONG MARRIAGES
Happiness is a daily decision I have been married and single. I am just as happy either way if I focus on my purpose and Jesus! Treat people like you did initially, and you’ll keep the relationship strong!
Marry truth, not a lie, and stand the test of time.
Pray the scriptures over your marriage. The Word of God is strong and powerful! It will close the doors to darkness and defeat and walk before you. The Word of God will build a fortress around your love!
Covenant marriages
The good news is that your covenant marriage will stand forever. It will stand against many bolts of lightning hurled against it, and the fiery darts will fall to the side. I knew a man who divorced His second wife and told her to return to her first (covenant) husband. As dreadful as that sounds, he was hearing from God correctly. He said that he was miserable and that the Lord dealt with him about marrying her.
She and her first husband belonged together, and they are working on reconciliation. This is a bit extreme, but keep praying the scriptures and believing God if you know He put you together. It might take a season of separation, but just do exactly what He tells you, and you shall see the glory of your God, even if things are terrible and seem impossible.
Nevertheless, If God has not joined you, don’t try to bind together what He has not connected. Recognizing the power of truth and obedience will free you from meaningless acts of misery and defeat. If you put yourselves together, you are two unstable compounds that will only explode in a dreadful storm of unhappiness.
What God has joined together, let no man put it under! (Matthew 19:6)
The book: “Is Your Relationship Worth the Cost? Will take you through many details of how to build and strengthen your relationship, which is wise, even when things are fine. That is when roots should be developed and grown, not on a rainy day.
If you are wondering what to do about your relationship, invest in this book and save yourself years of sorrow. Loving you, Dorothy M Elder
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CHEATING
When it comes to cheating, you may think men would be the most likely to do it in their early 20s, when they are at their most virile and have all sorts of crazy hormones bouncing around. Indeed, pop culture abounds with movies and TV shows about college guys desperate to have sex with as many women as possible, regardless, and some of that is surely true.
But, according to science, it is the older men who have a greater tendency to stray. According to data from the recent General Social Survey (GSS), 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married. Women seem to be most likely to cheat in their early 20s, while a man’s infidelity risk actually increases with age.
One fascinating 2014 study that looked into the activity of people on Ashley Madison found that men were more likely to look for an extramarital affair if they were about to hit a big milestone birthday, like 50 or 60. But if we had to boil it down to one specific number, it would have to be 55. According to an oft-quoted study by the University of New Hampshire, this is when men reach peak infidelity. Since so much of why men cheat, according to science, has to do with feeling like their masculinity is being threatened, it would make sense that this would be the age at which they are most at risk of committing adultery. When a man is fifty-five, he is standing on the cusp of his grandpa years, so he might see it as his last opportunity to graze in greener pastures before he’s officially over the hill.
If you’d like a copy of scriptures to pray over your marriage, email me at: strongwomenandfamilies@gmail.com
STOP THE PAIN AND SABOTAGE
Invest in your strength
Make positive emotional changes
Stop going around people that bring you pain
Find some new deeply spiritual Christians to pray for, and with you
Shift your focus, yes, you can do it
Get back into that good project
Trust that God’s love is enough for you today
Keep good praise and worship music going in your background
Cry when you have to, but force your mind to be happy
Allow yourself to grieve but look forward.
You have happiness ahead that you can’t see yet
Don’t rehearse what happened
If he/she was wrong and hurt you, remember that they did the best they could with the spiritual ability they had.
If you were wrong, forgive yourself, and decide you will not do that again
Go to the church and positive groups, but get out of the house
Take a good friend out to dinner and imagine that God will reveal happiness to you later
Tell God you are sincerely sorry for anything that was out of order
Remember, you were made for Love
Read the Bible. The anointing from the pages will bring you joy and strength
Ask God to satisfy you with His love again today
Go and be a blessing to someone else
PARENTING TAKES POWER!
Prayer for Children
Lord, we pray, return the hearts of us, as parents to our children. Heal our children. Heal the hearts and minds of our children. Help our children forgive us for selfishness. We decree that, ________ will not have to fight abandonment challenges! Peace and grace to ________ emotions and behavior Lord.
Jesus, make that great difference for ______________ and for every child hurt by their parent’s actions. God, I claim that You will fill them with your liquid love, worthiness, value, goodness and light. Lord, help us each be great parents in Jesus Name! Help me especially plant Your Word in ________ heart! Your presence shall supersede and cancel every work of the devil!†Amen!
Billy Graham
“A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to their parents will not have true respect for anyone.”
Motivate Your Children
Some Children are self-motivated and other need more vision to move forth. If you’re wondering how to motivate your child, rewarding them is often not the right step. however, children love to see something they haven’t seen before. Vision helps them stop making wrong decision that bring about the consequences none of us want. The best approach is to go easy on rewards and punishment and cultivate their internal motivation. Help them tune in to the good feelings of accomplishment and the pride of doing a good job.
1. Set Spiritual Goals – Read a scripture with them daily. Help them memorize pertinent scriptures. The word of God will do most of the work for you. Help them love and cherish the Word of God.
2. Set life Goals – Have them set goals. Make a list of short-term goals and one of the long-term goals. Make sure the goals are reachable.
3. Do a visionary workbook. Have them write out and confess who they want to be and who God says they are.
4. Make a Plan – In order to reach goals, they need a plan. Help your children create a strategy for reaching their goals.
5. Celebrate Accomplishments – When your child accomplishes their goals, let them know that you are proud of them. Celebrate these things together. Reward your child for their hard work. A sense of accomplishment is the best reward.
6. Make Things Competitive – Encourage healthy competition. Cheer on your child to beat another runner in a race or to take home the trophy from the spelling bee. Make competition about positivity and strength in regards to your child and never about negativity and weakness towards the competitor.
7. Encourage Them – Let your child know that you believe in them. Tell them how great they are going to do. Dismiss any self-doubt or fears they may have.
8. Take Interest – Learn about your child’s interests. Talk to your child about them and listen. It will show your children that you care and that they are free to talk to you about their interests.
9. Discover Passion – Encourage your children to discover what they are passionate about. It may take a few tries along the way. Support them on their journey towards passion and urge them to keep going until they find out what it is.
10. Remain Positive – Maintain a positive and optimistic outlook for your children. If they see fear or doubt in your eyes, then they will likely lose self-confidence. Having a positive approach will lighten their entire outlook to a situation.
11. Peer Pressure – Occasionally, a little peer pressure is not a bad thing. It can push your kids to do better in school or in a sport because they want to keep up with their friends. However, watch for when the stress of peer pressure starts to become too much.
12. Excite Them – Excite your children about their goals and ambitions. Show that you are excited for them, too. The positive energy and adrenaline will push them to continue their hard work and be happy with their efforts.
13. Help your children learn to REALLY pray scriptures and experience the power of God in their lives!